Category Archives: Family

Día de los Muertos calaveras

This year we did not create our ofrendas and other altars for the dead. Instead during this season that houses two important family traditions, Samhain and Día de los Muertos, we kept our altar space intact as it is everyday with family portraits and pictures of our lost family members posed in celebration with us while they were still alive. We did not single any nor all out for altars dedicated to our deceased loved ones. Not this year. We wanted to keep everyone together, if only in pictures and our memories. Our recent loss is too deep to do otherwise, and impossible to articulate beyond that. There was trick-or-treating on Halloween, and the children did beautiful Day of the Dead arts and crafts. (the skulls below done by Orion and friend). We told stories. We danced. And we rested.

the triage of grief

They sat with me for hours in this spot. Sometimes talking. Much of the time just being still, gazing at Autumn’s tranquil beauty and listening to the sounds of the Lake. 

For some this may look like healing. 

I know with experienced certainty it is not. 

Not yet. 

This, this is the perpetual triage of raw grief. 

Keep the body still.

Regulate the breath.

Quiet the mind.

Assess the wound.

Allow tears, laughter or lethargy to come.

Keep in check the anger.

When there is energy, do something useful, purposeful.

Ardently cradle the sorrow when it assails.

Repeat.

Thank you to everyone who has brought us meals, and sent us cards, and held me in your arms or with your spirit. Thank you for your prayers. Thank you for your love. You are a blessing to us, to me. Thank you.

~ Twinkle

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Congratulations Twinkle & Ed!!!

As many of you know our lovely “Twinkle” Marie was married on Saturday! Here is the message she posted on Facebook:

“Dreams do come true!! Thank you to everyone who shared in our celebration, whether you were with us in person or sent love from afar, we deeply appreciate your love and support. After our honeymoon we will post more pictures of our wedding weekend!!”

Twinkle & Ed we wish you every good blessing on your life together!

A new grandson

Yesterday, we spent 15 hours in the hospital for the labor and welcome of Cayson Edward Spaulding. Such a blessing is this family of ours. More family celebrations and joys to come in the next few weeks! This will be a summer (and a year) for the record books of our Family Tree! <3