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Hospitality 2.0

We know many of our UU friends and compassionate colleagues will be traveling distances on Saturday to attend the Women’s March 2.0 in Augusta.   If you are seeking a place to stop, have a warm cup of coffee or tea, and relax for a short while, perhaps even sit in our meditation room, before you proceed to or from the Maine State Capitol, please know there is a friendly, welcoming home for you to visit enroute. 

Twinkle’s Place is just of I-95 in Pittsfield: Exit 150 (40 minutes south of Bangor / 40 minutes north of Augusta).

IF you think you may wish to stop in, let me know and we will be prepared.  BUT also feel free to decide spur-of-the-moment depending on how you feel on Saturday.

Open House:

Saturday, January 20th


Twinkle’s Place

164 Lancey Street

Pittsfield, Maine

cell: (760) 889-5428

Facebook:  www.facebook.com/TwinkleMarie

Dear Winter

Dear Winter,

Welcome!  Your arrival is evident by the silver thaw that greets us this morning.

I bid you a request, if you will consider it please:

If you would set your low at this temperature this year, I would really appreciate it.

Really! You know 20° as opposed to -20° ❄

Seriously, we take you seriously at 20° – you are a force to be reckoned with and we admire your power… so, no need to go overboard this year. OK?

Oh… and, and Maybe, just maybe, not deposit 5 feet of snow at one time this year, and definitely not three consecutive storms of multiple feet of snow with only a few days shoveling-time in-between each. Yes – let’s try that.

Let’s try it for this year and get together over hot-chocolate in March to say goodbye.  Oh, yes, (P.S.) if you could depart by mid-March this year to make room for our next guest, Spring, I know you would gain many, many friends.

Just sayin, please consider it.

For this year.

Thank you.

~ Twinkle

Mother’s Day Blues Gathering and Ritual

If Mother’s Day is difficult for you, please join us Saturday, May 13th 7:00pm-9:00pm at Twinkle’s Place where all your emotions will be held in sacred space.

Mother’s Day is incredibly difficult for many women.

Women who have had challenging circumstances with their own mothers.

Women who have difficult situations with their children.

Women whose mother’s have died.

Women who carry pain in their hearts daily having had their child or children die.

Single or divorced mothers who share their children with another parent in less than ideal circumstances.

Single mothers who carry the full responsibility of sole-parenting all by themselves.

Stepmothers who struggle to live up to their stepchildren’s expectations.

Biological mothers who worry that they are being replaced by their child’s stepmother.

Adoptive mothers who carry concerns about biological mothers reappearing in their children’s lives.

Women who are estranged from their children.

Women who have miscarried children.

And all manner of modern day family situations that create complicated emotions for women.

And, also,

Women who would dearly love to have children, yet are infertile.


Women who have chosen to not have children, yet mother in many ways.

Join us as we gather in ritual to honor who we are, and where we are, on our journeys.

Saturday, May 13th 7:00pm-9:00pm

Multi-site Maine?

Our recent relocation to Maine has resulted in great blessings and great losses.

Our larger church communities are things of the past.

Not just for my son and I personally in our new home location, but for Maine as a whole.

For us it is a new loss.

For UU Mainers, it seems to have a long legacy leading to the present day “micro-small-church” ministries.

For instance, there is a beautiful church literally down the road from us. Less than a mile away.  We researched online at the UUA website before we came it is stated to have more than 30 active members.  But this is not true.  Not even close.  It is a ghost-church.  It is beautiful with its stained glass windows.  And its old sanctuary is indescribable in its beauty – rounded interior and ceiling murals.  But the beauty ends there.  Not because it is only skin deep, but because it is not being taken care of from the inside out, nor the outside in.

Partly because of church politics and inflexible heart-sets.

And, largely because  of “lack” and “other” mentality.

All are definitely Not welcome here, and those who come better be willing to do alot of work “their way” or else be quickly cast to the lot of those undesirable.

This unwelcoming atmosphere and unwillingness to change in transformational ways is evident by the lack of attendance – on Sunday mornings typically less than a dozen people.  Often no more than six people. As well as lack of programming or outreach.  The free listing in the paper each week has not changed in a decade – it touts that their is Religious Education and childcare available on Sundays.  This is not true – neither are offered. Children are not a focus at all in this congregation. Nor is enhancing the programming for adults seeking spiritual growth. Nor do they wish to consider re-envisioning Who They Are in their community, or in our Faith Tradition.

They have assets though. Assets handled mindfully could transform the congregation and be a boon to our UU faith in this area of small town Maine.

They have a modest endowment. A few hundred thousand dollars – which is modest, even small, compared to larger congregations, yet coveted by those without such – especially startup organization who would use the funds in such creative ways that service and outreach and  growth would be cornerstones.  Yet, this endowment goes towards keeping the building operational at the expense of the community.  They have a  huge old building that in better circumstances could be used to offset expenses with rental fees.  Yet due to not being maintained properly over the years it has reached the point of needing astronomical amounts of funds to fully repair, let alone sustain. There is no financial stewardship to speak of by members or attendees.

The sustenance of the building has been kept afloat by the endowment.

The sustenance of the people has been largely sacrificed due to prevailing personalities more focused on their stained glass windows than on the hearts and minds of those who would otherwise seek this church out as their spiritual home.

If the powers that be had a vision of how best to serve the community they are in, as opposed to how best to maintain the old building, they have the means to make a huge positive difference. Now, they need to gain the mindset and heartset to do so.

I will write more about this later.

Another sad discovery was that to the community in this small town it is the crazy-people’s church.  Not the kind of Crazy we UUs traditionally like to be identified as – but rather, deeply disturbed and malignant kind of crazy.  It is known as Satan’s church – seriously! I couldn’t believe it.  Coming from relatively healthy congregations viewed as staples to their communities, this is alarming to me.  A PR nightmare. As the new Worship Chair of this congregation, I hope to help change that public persona, we’ll see how that goes and I will report back on progress.

At this point though it has been easier to fill my house with attendees for retreats, workshops, meditations and concerts than it has been to have people show up for church on Sundays.

Something that is really necessary for all the small and struggling congregations is to consider how they can be collaborating together. Collaboration is key. Yet it means learning to “let go” of some things to gain better things that are best for all concerned.

For example, I think this idea of multi-site congregations is a Key that Maine congregations should be considering.

If the small congregations began to work collaboratively, they could reduce administration costs, share pulpit supply to ensure each Sunday service has the continuity of a professional speaker/minister, and they could host board and congregational retreats together to share ideas on how to build community and meet the pastoral care needs of their congregations.

They could unite in shared visions on how best to live in to our UU Values and Principles.

They could turn their focus towards the spiritual nourishment of their communities which is something that is greatly missing from many congregations as they are focused almost entirely on political advocacy – important, but should never be at the sacrifice of the spiritual needs.

There is more to consider.

I will write more soon.

Sending love,

~ Rev. “Twinkle” Marie Manning